This page contains crisis phone numbers and links as well as articles and information of relevance to mental health and counselling.
After the Affair : healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful, by Janis Abrahms Spring with Michael Spring. HarperCollins, 2020.
The Five Love Languages : the secret to love that lasts, by Gary Chapman. Northfield Publishing, 2015.
Wired for Love : how understanding your partner's brain and attachment style can help you diffuse conflict and build a secure relationship, by Stan Tatkin. New Harbinger, 2011. Stan Tatkin has written about complex processes of the brain in a very easy to read down-to-earth style to assist couples to understand themselves and their partner and the internal processes that can set up unhelpful ways of interacting together. He includes helpful exercises and suggestions as he writes which all makes for the possibility of making your relationship happier and healthier. This book is an excellent read for everyone in a relationship.
10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, by John M. Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman and Joan DeClaire. Three Rivers Press, 2006.
As I find interesting resources online, I will list them here with a link:
The more we know about ourselves, the more likely we will be able to negotiate relationships in a healthy way. This article is about 'attachment styes' and provides information on how they can be helpful. What are attachment styles and how can they affect your relationships?
What we say to our partners and how we say it is extremely important in building a healthy and nurturing relationship. How we speak to each other can predict whether our relationship will last or not. The following article, based on the research of John and Julie Gottman who have studied relationships for more than forty years, speaks to their findings about the predictors of divorce. This One Thing is the Biggest Predictor of Divorce.
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. Here is an interesting little TED talk that he presents for just over 10 minutes with a simple explanation of why relationships are so challenging. What he says can be a reminder of the importance of learning some skills to negotiate your relationship well together. I would encourage you to check it out. Relationships Are Hard, But Why?
Listening is such an important skill for counsellors, but this article also highlights how important it is for all of us to be listened to and to learn about listening to each other. Find out more here: Having a Good Listener Improves Your Brain Health.
Proper breathing can be extremely helpful for our mental health, find out more at this blog: The Power of Proper Breathing.
Esther Perel, an internationally renowned Couples Therapist, being interviewed about 'Why couples fight' on YouTube.
How we respond to our emotions is important for our mental health and well-being but our attitude toward some of what we are feeling can get in the way of this. This article can be helpful in understanding the role of emotions and how to be receptive to them. "Emotions aren't good or bad, they just are" by Anne Gregert, April 2014.
